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Mind Games
By Robin J | June 26, 2008
It is easy to fall into the trap of thinking when bad things happen it is because of something you did….not so much.
Do you really believe Creator whoever or whatever you deem that to be is up there playing mind games with us all?
And if things happen for a reason and maybe they hold some life lesson, if you are not the only one involved how can you be sure it is about you after all?
Something else to contemplate if all you know or have been told is bad things happen to you do you not think that belief is going to create your reality?
And why does one person see a dark cloud and the other a silver lining when looking at the same sky? Are we the artists and the world our canvas does the way we paint our world’s determine what we see within them?
Here is a contemplation: You are driving along and come across an accident you get out and there is a man lying in a ditch dying. You hold him until his last breathe he dies in your arms. When you retell this story does it go like this;
“I am so unlucky to have been there when that accident happened these things always happen to me”
or
“I am so grateful I was able to be there so this man was not alone when he died. What a blessing to be able to give him such a gift”
Think about it…….
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Big fish small pond
By Administrator | June 18, 2008
Have you ever heard someone say ‘He is a big fish in a small pond’? What this is in reference to is those people who make mountains out of molehills in order to feel important.
I mean do many of us really get the notion we are a small drop in a very big ocean?
But here is something to contemplate before we go jumping on our high horses. Do we have any right to point out what we perceive as unimportant in the big scheme of things? Maybe being the head of the local cake baking committee is not a big deal to some of us however it might just be the only shining light in a life of someone who feels trapped by their own insecurities and fears. Who are we to shatter illusions?
Or maybe the illusion lies with us for happiness cannot be defined as a single thing nor is it obtained in a single way nor does one way work for all.
I am guilty of wanting to shake some people and yell “You are just a big fish in a little pond get over yourself, the world is way bigger than this little committee!”
Yet who am I to say the world someone has created for themselves is not enough? Who am I to question the importance of a title such as president or secretary? And maybe it doesn’t matter in the big scheme of things maybe I am the one looking at it in the wrong way.
That being said I wonder if pride is such a noble quality to possess. I wonder if it is merely a badge that has no meaning when no one else is around to see it.
The thing I do know is there is always going to be a bigger fish than you just around the corner….
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Energy Efficiency
By Robin J | May 30, 2008
I am old I don’t have a lot of energy and it is a precious commodity as the years go by. Yet I still find myself giving my energy to things and people that do not serve my highest good.
When the price of gas goes up we tend to prioritize what we do so the gas will last and benefit us the most.
If energy is our life gas and we are at times running close to empty why do we keep giving it away without thought nor care?
Why do we invest time in unhealthy dysfunctial relationships?
Why do we spend time arguing about rivial meaningless things in stead of letting go?
I am not sure about you but I know I have invested at times way too much energy standing my ground when in fact it would have been easier to shift my position a little.
And why do you think we hold onto people and things long past their expiry date?
Is this the ‘Right thing to do’ mentality kicking in? Or do we see failure in not ‘Staying the distance’?
We as a society are recognizing we need to rethink our energy use we are slowing getting that what we are doing isn’t working and we need to think about greater good or what is best for Mother Earth.
But just for a moment think about your life force energy it is not a renewal resource either sooner or later it will run out. So why aren’t we prioritizing what we put our energy into?
As I get older I recognize letting go uses less energy than holding on, staying on the ground requires less energy than getting on a soapbox and I can’t be everything to everybody nor am I meant to be the world’s fix it person.
I am not sure about you but as I travel through this life I want the fuel I am using to last as long as possible….
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Paradox of life
By Robin J | May 5, 2008
Ever notice how we always want the other person to change yet we expect them to accept us as we are?
Ever wonder why we are so quick to judge others yet just as quick to beg for forgiveness when it comes to our own sins?
And why do we get upset when our partners do not read our minds yet have the expectation they should ask for what they want?
If we rear end another car we yell they stopped too fast if they rear end our car we scream they weren't looking where they were going....
It is a paradox of life we always miss in ourselves what we see in others. God/Goddess made every person we meet a mirror a reflection of our human imperfections.
The homeless man reflects my fear my insecurities my need to feel safe.
My partner reflects my inner child my unhealed wounds my need to be loved.
The Boss reflects my self esteem self confidence my belief in myself and so on.
Ever wonder why someone gets under your skin or triggers your emotions pushes your buttons?
Maybe and I am simply throwing this out there....maybe it has more to do with you than them something to think about isn't it?
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Life strings
By Robin J | May 3, 2008
I have this wonderful little book by Ursula Roberts an English Medium in it she writes “Detachment ….doesn’t entail living apart from the world….it means living with people and dealing with everyday problems without being emotionally involved in them.” She uses Mother Teressa as an example a person who truly did realize nothing is permanent and as they say “This too shall pass” Most people think being detached means you can’t be loving and all those things not true it simply means not getting hung up on outcomes. I can be detached and still possess empathy and compassion in fact I believe detachment enables me to have greater amounts of these qualities. I think it is all to do with investment….you tend to protect your investments….so if you are emotionally invested in something or someone you care about the outcome you cannot be objective Ponder how many times you have clung onto a point of view a position or stood on moral high ground unwilling to let go because you had become attached to these things What if and I am simply throwing this out there….what if you had a moment of enlightenment and the great lightbulb in the sky went off and you became all seeing….. do you really think your view would be the only one you would see? Which brings us back to detachment….if you are not attached to things you are more able to move freely from one point of view to another reaching a compromise Detachment frees your body because you do not have any emotions which will reflect within your body….no tension no anger no frustration no stress You simply move through whatever is happening dealing with the reality as it comes and then letting it go No attachment no need to hold onto things a recognition all things are impermanent But are we mere mortals capable of such a thing? Are we secure enough in our own identity our own sense of self that we can let go or do we need that attachment to things in order to feel part of life? For me detachment brings an inner peace small things don’t matter as much in fact even the big things are not the drama they use to be To be detached doesn’t mean I don’t care….it means I care a lot it means I want my relationships to be peaceful harmonious and full of joy rather than full of emotional bantering and hang ups on opinions which never get any of us what we want anyway So loosen the life strings and as the man says don’t sweat the small stuff
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All the worlds a stage
By Robin J | May 3, 2008
And we are merely players each acting out a role…. Ever have those moments where you get caught up in someone else’s drama? It’s easy to do….to get sucked into what ever is playing out around you but is it our own need for drama that keeps us a character in the play? When I get caught up in the drama playing out around me the fights arguments the petty stuff I remind myself how big my world is and that I have no need for a bit part in a small production I have this odd thing I do when people are listening to the sound of their own voice around me. I hold closed fists up and when I open the left hand I go “What would Buddha say” then I open the right hand up and go “What would Jesus say”. Then when I am asked what the answer is I reply “Get a life” Okay so not so much the Spiritual answer you were looking for but it is closer to the truth than you may think. While we are getting caught up in the drama we are missing life. Maybe and I am just throwing it out there….maybe we don’t want to let go of the drama because without it we would have to go get a life or at least be an active participant in creating a life for ourselves. Which brings us to another thing if we simply let go when we are facing an immovable situation….if we accept what we can change and acknowledge what we can’t change….and as they say have the wisdom to know the difference wouldn’t life be easier? I know I don’t have to fight to the death to prove myself right why because it simply doesn’t matter it isn’t the biggest thing in my life my happiness peace of mind is. I know I don’t have to get caught up in someone else’s drama because they will find someone to take my part as soon as I depart. Think about it I mean really think about how many times have you been a player a character to someone else’s drama only to think to yourself further down the track what I am doing and why I am doing it. Can’t speak for anyone else but I have been so caught up in the drama that even when I am alone thoughts about what I should be doing or what I could be doing or what I should have done occupy my head as I go to sleep. Ponder the thought that a lot of what we get caught up in sucked or hooked into really isn’t worth the attention and energy we are giving it. Now I sit back smile knowing I don’t have to prove anything to anyone or be anything for anyone. Now I sit back and watch the blood pressure rise of the man whose opinion is so important to him he has to rant and rave for 30 minutes completely ignorant to the fact a solution would have been found in 5 minutes if he wasn’t so hung up on the role he wanted to play. Now I sit back smile contribute what I need to speak when I need to listen when I need to and then walk away leaving behind the moment I was just in. What about you? What drama’s are you being ask to play a starring role in? And is everything that is said to you so important that it has to be held onto for days on end? I don’t think so but hey that’s just my opinion Topics: The worlds a stage | No Comments » By Robin J | May 3, 2008 Which brings me to my next point and yes I do have one. We tend to think everyone else is responsible for our anger happiness sadness and so on. He did this she did that but what if it isn’t everyone else what if the Master of your emotions was you? What if the action was less important than the reaction? What if things aren’t as important as we make them out to be? What if instead of hanging onto words and actions we let them go? I am not advocating that which crosses boundaries should be dismissed but think about isn’t most of our stress caused by how we react to situations? Ever been at a meeting and the words of that annoying man who wouldn’t shut up are played in your head long after he has left the scene of the crime. What if you could see him with compassion poor man it must suck to be him. I mean think about it logically the man didn’t come home with you did he? So you cannot blame him if you are still reacting long after he is gone. You know if you can take the “C” in reacting and shift it to the front you get creating. Maybe thats what is happening you are creating your own drama without recognizing it. Here’s something to try the next time you are at a meeting and feel yourself reacting ask yourself what am I creating by doing this is it stress worry more work? Personally I smile and say to myself “This too shall pass” and you know what it always does! Topics: Whatever | No Comments » By Robin J | May 3, 2008 I am struggling through life like the rest if humanity sometimes falling sometimes rising and always learning and growing My contemplations of late have consisted of conversations pertaining to self or the big question who am I And I must admit what I knew to be true I now doubt a shift in my circumstances and events beyond my control have catapulted me into the realm of uncertainy Is it as important as first thought to have this identity this sense of self or is it more enlightening to lose oneself? Is this character I have constructed this role I have made my own over the years truly who I am or merely a reflection of who I have become? Does self arise from ego from a need to be to exist in this world to matter or does a truly peaceful soul have no need to know who he/she is but simply walks in each moment free from the need to identify to cling to label? I have not found my answer as of yet…..but I do know when the self as it existed is shattered for the illusion it is…..then oddly there is a peace for there is no need to be anything and one can simply be Think about it…… Topics: Think about it | No Comments » By Robin J | May 3, 2008 We are always on a journey of self discovery and everynow and then we get a glimpse of awareness I have found often when I am being critical in my mind or judgmental that the very thing I am criticizing is the very thing I myself am guilty of….sometimes we have to look at ourselves when we are looking too closely at others…. Sometimes when I am thinking this person is very black and white in their thinking I am being the same…. Something to ponder perhaps this mirror of self reflection placed before us in every interaction with every soul we meet I consider myself a spiritual person but I am under no illusions as to the fact I am human and my ego mind is always present always challenging me perhaps my job is to be less identified with being a spiritual person and more accepting of the person I am but thats another contemplation Topics: Mirrors | No Comments » By Robin J | May 3, 2008 Lots of life lessons in my pathway over the last month but then the Universe will always throw life at you when you need a nudge. I have contemplated many things how things are never the same when you retrace the past, people change or you change and people stay the same. I pondered how the only reality you can deal with is the one you are in. In this moment this is true for me and this is what I can change and this is what I have to let go. I have come to the conclusion no matter how enlightened you may be you still have to walk through pain grief loss like every other mortal on the planet. There are no shortcuts as tough and as sucky as it may be you have to walk through the realities of life as it presents itself to you. I have felt emotion crush my chest and wanted with every fibre of my being to ignore to avoid the hurt but I knew in my heart I had to walk through it without becoming attached which would turn me into a victim. It is less overwelming however to say in this moment this is my reality but that doesn’t mean things will stay this way forever. This too shall pass. But I will deal with the realities in my life I won’t avoid them won’t hide them I will be the best I can be in this moment and I will be enough. When you start projecting into the future predicting your life circumstances for the next 20 years it is incredibily self defeating why wade through a life time of anticipated problems why not deal with this moment right now. Think about it the Serenity Prayer as simplistic as it is is very true change what you can let go of what you cannot change and have the wisdom to know the difference between the two. Topics: Life and reality | No Comments »
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p>Whatever Mum! A statement I heard many times and it pushed my buttons and pissed me off every time my sons said it.Think about it
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