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Paradox of life
By Robin J | May 5, 2008
Ever notice how we always want the other person to change yet we expect them to accept us as we are?
Ever wonder why we are so quick to judge others yet just as quick to beg for forgiveness when it comes to our own sins?
And why do we get upset when our partners do not read our minds yet have the expectation they should ask for what they want?
If we rear end another car we yell they stopped too fast if they rear end our car we scream they weren't looking where they were going....
It is a paradox of life we always miss in ourselves what we see in others. God/Goddess made every person we meet a mirror a reflection of our human imperfections.
The homeless man reflects my fear my insecurities my need to feel safe.
My partner reflects my inner child my unhealed wounds my need to be loved.
The Boss reflects my self esteem self confidence my belief in myself and so on.
Ever wonder why someone gets under your skin or triggers your emotions pushes your buttons?
Maybe and I am simply throwing this out there....maybe it has more to do with you than them something to think about isn't it?
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Life strings
By Robin J | May 3, 2008
I have this wonderful little book by Ursula Roberts an English Medium in it she writes “Detachment ….doesn’t entail living apart from the world….it means living with people and dealing with everyday problems without being emotionally involved in them.” She uses Mother Teressa as an example a person who truly did realize nothing is permanent and as they say “This too shall pass” Most people think being detached means you can’t be loving and all those things not true it simply means not getting hung up on outcomes. I can be detached and still possess empathy and compassion in fact I believe detachment enables me to have greater amounts of these qualities. I think it is all to do with investment….you tend to protect your investments….so if you are emotionally invested in something or someone you care about the outcome you cannot be objective Ponder how many times you have clung onto a point of view a position or stood on moral high ground unwilling to let go because you had become attached to these things What if and I am simply throwing this out there….what if you had a moment of enlightenment and the great lightbulb in the sky went off and you became all seeing….. do you really think your view would be the only one you would see? Which brings us back to detachment….if you are not attached to things you are more able to move freely from one point of view to another reaching a compromise Detachment frees your body because you do not have any emotions which will reflect within your body….no tension no anger no frustration no stress You simply move through whatever is happening dealing with the reality as it comes and then letting it go No attachment no need to hold onto things a recognition all things are impermanent But are we mere mortals capable of such a thing? Are we secure enough in our own identity our own sense of self that we can let go or do we need that attachment to things in order to feel part of life? For me detachment brings an inner peace small things don’t matter as much in fact even the big things are not the drama they use to be To be detached doesn’t mean I don’t care….it means I care a lot it means I want my relationships to be peaceful harmonious and full of joy rather than full of emotional bantering and hang ups on opinions which never get any of us what we want anyway So loosen the life strings and as the man says don’t sweat the small stuff
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All the worlds a stage
By Robin J | May 3, 2008
And we are merely players each acting out a role…. Ever have those moments where you get caught up in someone else’s drama? It’s easy to do….to get sucked into what ever is playing out around you but is it our own need for drama that keeps us a character in the play? When I get caught up in the drama playing out around me the fights arguments the petty stuff I remind myself how big my world is and that I have no need for a bit part in a small production I have this odd thing I do when people are listening to the sound of their own voice around me. I hold closed fists up and when I open the left hand I go “What would Buddha say” then I open the right hand up and go “What would Jesus say”. Then when I am asked what the answer is I reply “Get a life” Okay so not so much the Spiritual answer you were looking for but it is closer to the truth than you may think. While we are getting caught up in the drama we are missing life. Maybe and I am just throwing it out there….maybe we don’t want to let go of the drama because without it we would have to go get a life or at least be an active participant in creating a life for ourselves. Which brings us to another thing if we simply let go when we are facing an immovable situation….if we accept what we can change and acknowledge what we can’t change….and as they say have the wisdom to know the difference wouldn’t life be easier? I know I don’t have to fight to the death to prove myself right why because it simply doesn’t matter it isn’t the biggest thing in my life my happiness peace of mind is. I know I don’t have to get caught up in someone else’s drama because they will find someone to take my part as soon as I depart. Think about it I mean really think about how many times have you been a player a character to someone else’s drama only to think to yourself further down the track what I am doing and why I am doing it. Can’t speak for anyone else but I have been so caught up in the drama that even when I am alone thoughts about what I should be doing or what I could be doing or what I should have done occupy my head as I go to sleep. Ponder the thought that a lot of what we get caught up in sucked or hooked into really isn’t worth the attention and energy we are giving it. Now I sit back smile knowing I don’t have to prove anything to anyone or be anything for anyone. Now I sit back and watch the blood pressure rise of the man whose opinion is so important to him he has to rant and rave for 30 minutes completely ignorant to the fact a solution would have been found in 5 minutes if he wasn’t so hung up on the role he wanted to play. Now I sit back smile contribute what I need to speak when I need to listen when I need to and then walk away leaving behind the moment I was just in. What about you? What drama’s are you being ask to play a starring role in? And is everything that is said to you so important that it has to be held onto for days on end? I don’t think so but hey that’s just my opinion Topics: The worlds a stage | No Comments » By Robin J | May 3, 2008 Which brings me to my next point and yes I do have one. We tend to think everyone else is responsible for our anger happiness sadness and so on. He did this she did that but what if it isn’t everyone else what if the Master of your emotions was you? What if the action was less important than the reaction? What if things aren’t as important as we make them out to be? What if instead of hanging onto words and actions we let them go? I am not advocating that which crosses boundaries should be dismissed but think about isn’t most of our stress caused by how we react to situations? Ever been at a meeting and the words of that annoying man who wouldn’t shut up are played in your head long after he has left the scene of the crime. What if you could see him with compassion poor man it must suck to be him. I mean think about it logically the man didn’t come home with you did he? So you cannot blame him if you are still reacting long after he is gone. You know if you can take the “C” in reacting and shift it to the front you get creating. Maybe thats what is happening you are creating your own drama without recognizing it. Here’s something to try the next time you are at a meeting and feel yourself reacting ask yourself what am I creating by doing this is it stress worry more work? Personally I smile and say to myself “This too shall pass” and you know what it always does! Topics: Whatever | No Comments » By Robin J | May 3, 2008 I am struggling through life like the rest if humanity sometimes falling sometimes rising and always learning and growing My contemplations of late have consisted of conversations pertaining to self or the big question who am I And I must admit what I knew to be true I now doubt a shift in my circumstances and events beyond my control have catapulted me into the realm of uncertainy Is it as important as first thought to have this identity this sense of self or is it more enlightening to lose oneself? Is this character I have constructed this role I have made my own over the years truly who I am or merely a reflection of who I have become? Does self arise from ego from a need to be to exist in this world to matter or does a truly peaceful soul have no need to know who he/she is but simply walks in each moment free from the need to identify to cling to label? I have not found my answer as of yet…..but I do know when the self as it existed is shattered for the illusion it is…..then oddly there is a peace for there is no need to be anything and one can simply be Think about it…… Topics: Think about it | No Comments » By Robin J | May 3, 2008 We are always on a journey of self discovery and everynow and then we get a glimpse of awareness I have found often when I am being critical in my mind or judgmental that the very thing I am criticizing is the very thing I myself am guilty of….sometimes we have to look at ourselves when we are looking too closely at others…. Sometimes when I am thinking this person is very black and white in their thinking I am being the same…. Something to ponder perhaps this mirror of self reflection placed before us in every interaction with every soul we meet I consider myself a spiritual person but I am under no illusions as to the fact I am human and my ego mind is always present always challenging me perhaps my job is to be less identified with being a spiritual person and more accepting of the person I am but thats another contemplation Topics: Mirrors | No Comments » By Robin J | May 3, 2008 Lots of life lessons in my pathway over the last month but then the Universe will always throw life at you when you need a nudge. I have contemplated many things how things are never the same when you retrace the past, people change or you change and people stay the same. I pondered how the only reality you can deal with is the one you are in. In this moment this is true for me and this is what I can change and this is what I have to let go. I have come to the conclusion no matter how enlightened you may be you still have to walk through pain grief loss like every other mortal on the planet. There are no shortcuts as tough and as sucky as it may be you have to walk through the realities of life as it presents itself to you. I have felt emotion crush my chest and wanted with every fibre of my being to ignore to avoid the hurt but I knew in my heart I had to walk through it without becoming attached which would turn me into a victim. It is less overwelming however to say in this moment this is my reality but that doesn’t mean things will stay this way forever. This too shall pass. But I will deal with the realities in my life I won’t avoid them won’t hide them I will be the best I can be in this moment and I will be enough. When you start projecting into the future predicting your life circumstances for the next 20 years it is incredibily self defeating why wade through a life time of anticipated problems why not deal with this moment right now. Think about it the Serenity Prayer as simplistic as it is is very true change what you can let go of what you cannot change and have the wisdom to know the difference between the two. Topics: Life and reality | No Comments » By Robin J | May 3, 2008 During the drama we call life I have come to contemplate ‘Stuff’ in particular what is my stuff and what isn’t. It occurred me the line between what is mine and what is yours sometimes blurrs as I am sure it does for all of us. One day we turn around and go “That really didnt have anything to do with me at all” It takes a clear mind to recognize when the drama is being created and we have stepped into our anticipated role it takes a awareness to be able to step away at that point and go this isn’t about me or this is not my issue to deal with. Think about the times you have been pulled along by someone else’s agenda, think about the times when you suddenly thought what am I doing? We all have a tendency to react when our buttons are pushed it is human nature but the trick is to know when it isn’t about our stuff and having the awareness to step away in that moment. Think about it……wouldn’t your life be easier if you could just say “That must be tough for you but this isn’t about me”…..how many family dramas would have ended before they started if those words had have been spoken. If you had not got sucked into someone else’s ‘Stuff’ how much easier would have it been to stay objective? It is a skill to know what is your stuff what isn’t and it requires awareness to keep out of other people’s ‘Stuff’. You might be saying at this point yes but sometimes you have to get involved and I would argue back no you don’t and if you do get involved it should be only to sort your stuff out and not to work through other peoples stuff. We can only honor our own truth our own feelings emotions our own actions. Whenever I hear a sentence start with “YOU” I am pretty sure whatever is coming is not about me at all. Whenever there is a third party and a triangle dialogue happening I am very careful not to take aboard second hand information. When you think about it it is like going to the corner store to do your laundry if you pull out the washing and find someone else’s underwear mixed up with your stuff you aren’t going to take them home and wear them. And neither should you take home other peoples drama opinions hurts and issues they don’t belong in your dirty laundry. Something to ponder….which do you think honors someone more? To fuel the fire and allow them to keep building the drama or to step away and so they have to work through the issues? Don’t take home someone else’s dirty laundry be loud and clear “That ain’t my stuff” Topics: That ain't my stuff | No Comments » By Robin J | May 3, 2008 Isn’t strange we never contemplate time when we are young? What is it about youth that gives us immortality? Could it be an ability to care only for the moment we are in? While as adults we moan about a younger generation who care little about their past and less about their future I wonder who is the happiest? Isn’t it strange how when we become engrossed in an activity which inspires us we lose all track of time it ceases to exist? We have the childhood wonder and excitement that keeps us in the moment. You have to ponder the wisdom of pushing a child to be like an adult when the adult often wishes he/she was more like the child….think about it. Topics: Time | No Comments » By Robin J | May 3, 2008 What is my life purpose? A question we all wrestle with at one point in time or another. We sit and ponder contemplate and intellectualize. Am I meant to be doing this or that? Am I meant to be here or there? It is an age old contemplation which often leads us to search for the meaning in our lives. But here’s something to think about what if your life’s purpose was to step into your greatness with every breathe you are given? What if there is not any great plan? What if by being all you can be in a single moment you are enough? Why can’t your life purpose be to live no great intellectual contemplations necessary? Chances are if you are looking for a purpose to your life you haven’t stepped into your greatness stepped into the person you were born to be. One may even say if you are happy content and living a life of depth and richness then you have found your purpose in life. Some people find it in raising their children,others in service,others in work and so on. If you are walking your truth being an authentic soul the pathway you walk is always the one you are meant to be on. The purpose of life is to grasp the reality that each breathe you take does not come with a guarentee there will be another one. We tend to take for granted this breathe of life we are given. We walk in the illusion there will be a next one if we could grasp the reality maybe we would be less inclined to search for something that does not exist yet and create what we want in the moment we are given. Live each day with everything we have. And who knows your purpose in this world may have been the kind word you gave a homeless man,the helping hand you gave a friend,the security you gave you children growing up it may have been all those things and more. Deeds should not be rated by a sliding scale the most simplest of things can impact the world just as much as the words of the greatest spiritual leader. Your mission should you accept is to live life to walk with gratitude for each breathe and remember what Mother Teresa said do small things with great love and you can change the world. Topics: Life purpose | 1 Comment »
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p>Whatever Mum! A statement I heard many times and it pushed my buttons and pissed me off every time my sons said it.Think about it
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